I guess I can outline the situation...
A year and a half ago my husband and I embarked on a journey, the journey of the open marriage. My being extremely picky and shy led to a slow start for me. Eventually, a year later, I found someone I trusted enough to let in. He became my "friend" with benefits. Things were going along just fine. The whole group would go out and do all the things we loved to do. No-one had a problem with what I was doing... until... one day, someone who was an acquaintance started hanging around more. See, she had known Jonathan back in the day. She dated his best friend when they were like 15 and had with in the last couple of years hooked back up with him. So anyway, they were having a rough time and she went to Jonathan for advice.
Things were still fine at this point... that is until Jonathan proposed that he move in with us. It would help him save money, it would help us save money. I didn't see why it would be a problem, he was already spending every weekend at our house.
This is when the shit hit the fan. My other roommate(j) and the acquaintance (jh) took it upon themselves to discuss the situation with anyone who would listen. Catching wind of this, Jonathan stopped all physical contact with me and in doing so made me feel as if I was being pushed away. I was furious that my personal life had been put in the lime light and that because of this I was losing a friend and the benefits that had come along with it. Not to mention that I felt like I had to compete for Jonathan's attention because JH had practically moved in to his room and just wouldn't go home.

All of this happened at the end of August and I'd been holding a grudge. I finally decided, on sunday oct 16, to just let go of it all and get on with my life. I desperately wanted my friendship with Jonathan back and I knew the only way I could would be to just let go. I told J and JH that I was letting go and I was sorry for being such a bitch about everything. I thought everything was fine... Until Monday when Jonathan came home, didn't say a word to anybody and locked himself in his room with a 12 pack. I hate to see the ones I love hurt, so I text messaged him to see what was going on. He very rudely replied that he was tired of people talking about him instead of to him, that it was none of anybody's business what was going on between him and JH. Well, I honestly had no clue what he was talking about, so we continued to text message back and forth until I realized he wasn't going to fully open up to me at this point. So, Tuesday I messaged to see how he was doing. This time he told me everything. In doing so he made me feel like JH needed to be called to make sure she was ok. So, the hubby, who started all of this without any intention, give JH a call and she starts bringing up shit from months ago that I had apologized for and thought I had taken care of on Sunday night. Why can't other people just let things go. I said I was letting go and I honestly did let go. JH running to Jonathan and bitching about things that happened months ago caused even more drama that wasn't needed. By doing this she upsets my husband and Jonathan... wtf?!?!?!?

Knowing that everything was ok between Jonathan and I because we had been talking all day, I messaged him to see if he wanted to watch a movie with me when he got home from work. Upon learning that I had made plans with him, JH wants to come over saying that she had a fight with Jonathan and wants to talk to him.. .he won't answer his phone when she calls. I tell her I don't think it's a good idea for her to come over since I know for a fact that the hubby is upset because of her and it sounds like Jonathan is too. Not to mention that I know if she comes over Jonathan won't be able to watch the movie with me. Fuck, he's my friend too, why can't I get time with him too? Guess who shows up at my house, with the next days work clothes in hand, despite the fact that I said I didn't think it was good idea.

So, Jonathan gets home from work and JH follows him into the house and back to his room where she shuts the door. I'm furious because she knew I was waiting for him to get home so we could watch the movie. I didn't want to go knock on his door because I knew I would probably be interuppting some sort of talk... but I did message him.. .About 45 minutes after he got home I sent him a text message:"were you still wanting to watch this movie? if not i'm going to bed". Much to my surprise about 5 minutes later he came in the living room and watched it with me.

JH did however walk through the living room and I got the impression that she wasn't happy that I had messaged him. I really don't care how she felt.

None of the drama surfaced until she jumped into the picture. I can't help but think she started the shit to get what she wanted out of it... ie - Jonathan not knowing who he could trust and not wanting to hear talk of us and stopping what we had. She succeeded, but I'm slowly gaining his trust back. I only hope one day JH will do something and Jonathan will realize she has caused so much of this... I feel that she is going to be the demise of all of the relationships in my house. Something really bad is going to happen and the problem will leave... Only I feel that the true problem won't be what leaves and that will break my heart.